I don't know if I have room to speak here, but I am not sure why people fly off the handle. Sure, there are angry and frustrated people in this game, as they probably started later than most of us and hate being nailed...figuratively speaking
It is a learning curve they don't want to experience, but we have all been through it. I suggest that you provide positive reinforcement and constructive criticism to the newer folks. Some will never learn or 'get it', but that doesn't mean you need to drop to their level.
Fly and Die is the only way to go...its a game, my friends, and like anything else in life, if you don't like it...you have the opportunity to walk away. There are worse things in life. Grow up and get over it