[M]Comet wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote:

Good game with Comet. Early on, an idiot going by "wingsofdeath" was quite mouthy and slanderous. We had enough and jetmaroo and dunc gave a pass to Comet and me. We went after him and Grover would not comply...so he got his and left. I reported wingsofdeath twice and nothing. Wingsofdeath finally bombed his hanger again and was booted...it was fun sending him to the ground over and over again...he needs a bit more misfit love..

That was fun! Wingsofsuck was like 2-28 or something like that before he was kicked... I don't think I've ever seen a spanking like that before heeheehee!

Big shout out to jet and dunc for letting us have our way with the turd.

You guys have set a "name" for [M] out there in the skies

[M]

Just tried playing..lag is worst I have ever seen...not going to play for a while..osta my peeps..seeya when I see ys..NOT LEAVING SQUAD OR ANY CRAZY SHIT LIKE THAT...NEED TO SEE IF TIME WILL FIX..NUTS!! See u guys at the hole!!!

Well just a couple of Brits from Colburn embracing America *insert Team America theme song*

By now i know each other of you pretty wel wait darraxx is Mad Rabbit? Jk just saying hi to all!

I am really liking the stat work of Blue Fighter.

His last effort shows how you rank based only on the two weeks data period in various categories.

I am only 158 in overall rank but was curious of how my current activity ranked with the big boys.

Not too shabby. My two week rankings

Kills 16th
Hangers 9th
Wins. 14th
KDR. 13th

Hey friends I'm just asking very politely if someone could help me make a new banner to go along with my old one there is an airplane I meant to say that would be an ally airplane I don't expect miracles and I don't expect things to be done instantly but if one of you fabulous banner makers would decide to help me out with this keep in mind I don't even know how to put it on my thing where it belongs so you not only have to make it but you have to put it on there too! I see so many wonderful banners and I'm proud of all of you that design these oMG these look good! By the way I would like you all to know this hang in there be proud don't let them get over you and if they try just kill him hoorah! hey Fox 1 could you help me change my jumping Fox just put any other one on if you get the time I would really like that you're a good person fox1 even if in reality you are Fox 2 lol lol!

OMG I LOVE YOU ALL!!!!!

Ok.just wtf did.zup do game.is fubar now

darraxx wrote: Ok.just wtf did.zup do game.is fubar now

I dont know but i agree with you. I saw him flying in game today and that means he is testing something, tanks are almost unkillable for some, invisible, able to go underwater. Game has quite a few new problems.

Yeah sorry tr i was tossed.out of the game.this.morning and game.would.not reload took.me.hours to.get game.to.work.again

Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

CANNON, hang in there buddy, believe me I know about hard times. We own a total of 49 apartments, one of them burnt down 6 years ago due to a stupid tenant, well we had enough insurance to completely get a new building however halfway though the rebuilding the government of tennessee enacted the international fire code in which we had to do, it put us in $150,000 in credit card dept even though we were under the grandfather law and already had all our permits.

Then in my 24 unit complex the government came in with a sewer that was all corrupt, the creation of the sewer and everything was all driven by politicians who stood on making tons of money. Well myself and another lady proved the corruption and we bankrupted the utility and cost several politicians tons of money. It's been all over the t.v. and news here in tn. Just goggle lake Tansi sewer district. Well now I'm hated by the politicians and the state attorney is sueing my wife and I trying to put us out of business. We will know in just a few months if we will survive or lose everything.

CANNON put your problems in GODS hands, if GOD allows it to happen than GODS will be done, I'm not going to argue with GOD therefore I'm happy with whatever GOD has in store for us. Our faith allows us to handle this stuff.

As for people using your faith against you, we see it all the time, try evicting a tenant with a child because they can't pay rent and they yell at us "HOW CAN YOU BE A CHRISTIAN". In the meantime they have plenty of money for cigarettes and booze and whatever. Probably several hundred dollars a month. It's horrible.

So here I sit with a wife who's been sick the last couple of weeks, being sued, hated by the tennessee politicians, hated by tenants but I sit here in peace as whatever GOD allows to happen then let it be.

My website is wwwstoptansisewers.com. Hang in there buddy.

PS, GOD expects you to help people but not to be used as a doormat to be walked all over. This came directly from the code 7

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

As I do not know the entirety of the situation beyond what you have shared, it is difficult to express my thoight. So I will relate these words to my own experiences in my life.

I would ascertain that you have blindly given without question and this may be the best way that you cane cope with the circumstances without asking what or where is it being spent on.

Guilt is the weapon of choice when one has no good reason to be upset. If you are questioning the motive of the comment, then your gut feeling is usually correct.

You are a morale man and should never think you are not. It would seem that you may have some hurtle ahead, but go in eyes open and not eyes wide shut.

Hey Mike, I can sure empathize...we have a son that is shacked up with a gal and they have a little guy that's just over two years old. We understand how hard it is to raise a kid these days and try to help as much as we can. But they will use that kid as a weapon when we can't lend them money...upsets me greatly but what can I do? I have not seen my grandson for over a month now...all over saying no...

I'm not sure what to tell you except I feel what you're feeling. I'm just hoping some time passes and the other party comes to their senses...and grow up...

Reached 20000 kills!

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

Monsta! When dealing with mental illness there is no right or wrong answer. One of my close family members has issues that change from one day to the next. There is no way to know what to do or say to them as what was ok today will set them off tomorrow. Guilt is one of the ways used to get you to do what they want you to. You already know to put it in Gods hands, it will be whatever he wants it to be. Stay strong, call anytime if I can help. Read Proverbs 3:5-6

[*M] TR wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

Monsta! When dealing with mental illness there is no right or wrong answer. One of my close family members has issues that change from one day to the next. There is no way to know what to do or say to them as what was ok today will set them off tomorrow. Guilt is one of the ways used to get you to do what they want you to. You already know to put it in Gods hands, it will be whatever he wants it to be. Stay strong, call anytime if I can help. Read Proverbs 3:5-6

Thank you for that T.R. I read it and practice that daily.

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote:

[*M] TR wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

Monsta! When dealing with mental illness there is no right or wrong answer. One of my close family members has issues that change from one day to the next. There is no way to know what to do or say to them as what was ok today will set them off tomorrow. Guilt is one of the ways used to get you to do what they want you to. You already know to put it in Gods hands, it will be whatever he wants it to be. Stay strong, call anytime if I can help. Read Proverbs 3:5-6

Thank you for that T.R. I read it and practice that daily.

Mike, you are a wise man. You already know the answers to your own question. You are doing everything you can now. Stay focused

*[M]VonHulk wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote:

[*M] TR wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

Monsta! When dealing with mental illness there is no right or wrong answer. One of my close family members has issues that change from one day to the next. There is no way to know what to do or say to them as what was ok today will set them off tomorrow. Guilt is one of the ways used to get you to do what they want you to. You already know to put it in Gods hands, it will be whatever he wants it to be. Stay strong, call anytime if I can help. Read Proverbs 3:5-6

Thank you for that T.R. I read it and practice that daily.

Mike, you are a wise man. You already know the answers to your own question. You are doing everything you can now. Stay focused

Thanks hulk, everyone. I guess it really threw me for a loop when she left a guilt tripping, sarcastic message.

Brother Mike...I went through a very similar experience with my son's mother. After we split, we attempted to work things out a couple of months later, but lived in different places. I would always help her out when she needed money for stuff at the market, cigarettes and even a 6 pack here and there.

It wasn't until "way too many times" later of trying to help her out, that I found out she was hitting other people up and, unfortunately, got involved with pain killers. Add that to her bi-polar condition and it was a recipe for destruction

She would get mad at me when I stopped lending her money...but at that point, I was not helping her, only enabling her. I offered at one point to give me a list of stuff she needed as I would go buy it for her. I even offered to order food from the grocery store and all she had to do was pick it up. She argued that I didn't need to do that and she was capable of getting the stuff herself. Wouldn't even give a bill. I had a feeling what was going on, but didn't want to believe it.

At around that time, I stopped trying to help as I realize I was only contributing to her "needs". My heart, like yours, is in the right place. Doing the right thing for the wrong results didn't make me feel good and had to stop...which was hard to do, but was the right choice. You can only lead a horse to water.

Good luck and hope your situation is not the same as mine, but you can offer solutions like I did...I would stay far away from giving money. You're a good man and, like someone else said, makes you an easy target - Trust me, been there, done that too many times

MISFIT STRONG. MISFITS UNITED. MISFITS GOT EACH OTHERS' BACKS

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

Brother Cannon, you are truly a good person. Even though we have yet to shake hands, I have learned a great deal from you and your posts. You can only help those that want to be helped. Friend or family. Sometimes we help people so much they grow to expect it. I sort of feel like this May be the case. You did what you could and should be proud of that. Sometimes, tough love is the best love. Hold your head high my friend, you have much to be proud of!

I played in a great battle tonight with GunHill. I had to leave to hit the bed. Had loads of fun.




Got to see the moon come up.

I have no idea what I was thinking when I decided to revive the Hall of Fame. Learned a lot about BB code today! Anyway, I posted an updated list over there. Proud of all the [M]isfits on that list! Don't know how, but I even managed to get 2 votes! HAHAHA! Still looking for some volunteers!

Hey Misfits

Just stopping in to say that I'm glad Skyripper revitalized the Hall of Fame. That was such a great idea; I'm glad it will live on.

Also, I had a great game with Comet. We tore some Hangars up pretty quickly. A lot of fun.

Thanks

Thanks guys. I let my youth minister(I'm a youth worker in the church) listen to the message she left. My sister is one who gets what she wants through guilt trips...she did that alot to my mother when she was alive and I really despised her fo r that. It seems she is manipulating me in much the same way...trying to lead me to believe I'm less of a Christian for not giving what she "expected." I haven't kept track of how much money I've given her over the years...she calls and I send. It seems the only time she ever calls is whenshe needs money. I believe in helping family but her message made me feel like she is using me.

[*M]bzerkbzerk wrote:

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Hi all...this has not been a good day for me and I wanted to share with my other family. Ok...i need to share as I'm pretty heartbroken about this. My brother has some pretty significant mental illness and has been and is homeless...there is not a whole lot I can do for him. Christmas was the first we spoke since 2008...just before my mother died. I was going to send warm clothing, but did not hear back from him after he changed cellphone numbers after Christmas. My sister was doing extremely well for herself until a breakdown after my mothers death. For reasons unknown, she lost her kids to her ex...there are two sides to every story; but I did not press further. Since losing her kids, she experienced medical problems (so she says). Every month for the past several years, she calls asking for money. I never refuse, sending what I could without causing problems with the code 7. Idk what the money is going to, but just send it believing she is getting what she needs. I'm a Christian and she knows this, also professing such. She knows I too have bills, house, and past taxes in paying and is usually grateful for anything I can do. Monday, she called asking for anything I can send...it didn't matter. Well, I was already home and couldn't do anything as WalMart is in the other city where I work on Mondays and Fridays. Well, I didn't get to that city as planned due to staff shortages in my other offices. I went through my finances and with a trip coming up the week after next, I played it safe and could send $25. I made the trip to WalMart while calling her and letting her know that's what I could do at this time. I got to WalMart and decided to send $30. I got a voicemail at church today and it was from her. She said she picked up the 30 bucks and that she will never ask another thing of me again. She said she hoped when I stand before God that I could honestly say I've done everything possible to help my homeless brother and sister. That rubbed me the wrong way as I don't even know how much money I've sent her every month for several years. Several things go through my mind...what is she doing to help herself....is she using my faith against me as a guilt trip....etc. Idk. But this sure was heartbreaking. She wouldn't answer my call. Anyway, I needed to share as idk what to do.

As I do not know the entirety of the situation beyond what you have shared, it is difficult to express my thoight. So I will relate these words to my own experiences in my life.

I would ascertain that you have blindly given without question and this may be the best way that you cane cope with the circumstances without asking what or where is it being spent on.

Guilt is the weapon of choice when one has no good reason to be upset. If you are questioning the motive of the comment, then your gut feeling is usually correct.

You are a morale man and should never think you are not. It would seem that you may have some hurtle ahead, but go in eyes open and not eyes wide shut.

Mike, my brother is the same exact way...but I found out what he was doing with the money..in my case ..it was no good!! so I do know what your going through...like someone posted, your doing all you can do and have done...you can't help someone if they don't want help...you have to help yourself befor you can can help someone else...what I mean by that is you have to take care your family first and foremost then when your ready help that other person, in this case your sister...you know in your heart what you have to do..just know your not alone...I bet most of us have been through what you have at some point in our lives to some extent or another..like Bzerk said go in eyes and ears wide open..keep an open mind to..my personal situation I expected the worse...but was hoping for the best..when it came I was prepared to some extent..GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS BROTHER!!

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Thanks guys. I let my youth minister(I'm a youth worker in the church) listen to the message she left. My sister is one who gets what she wants through guilt trips...she did that alot to my mother when she was alive and I really despised her fo r that. It seems she is manipulating me in much the same way...trying to lead me to believe I'm less of a Christian for not giving what she "expected." I haven't kept track of how much money I've given her over the years...she calls and I send. It seems the only time she ever calls is whenshe needs money. I believe in helping family but her message made me feel like she is using me.

Sir Cannon, a long time ago I heard someone say "If it walks like a duck and looks like a duck. It's probably a Duck. I think you are dealing with sister, who is a Duck.

[*M]ONSTER CANNON wrote: Thanks guys. I let my youth minister(I'm a youth worker in the church) listen to the message she left. My sister is one who gets what she wants through guilt trips...she did that alot to my mother when she was alive and I really despised her fo r that. It seems she is manipulating me in much the same way...trying to lead me to believe I'm less of a Christian for not giving what she "expected." I haven't kept track of how much money I've given her over the years...she calls and I send. It seems the only time she ever calls is whenshe needs money. I believe in helping family but her message made me feel like she is using me.

Hardest part for me mike was telling my brother, "THATS IT..NO MORE MONEY" I bought him new clothes and boots and sneakers..he told me he didn't want that..he wanted money...so that was when I did some digging in the hood and found out more then I wanted, my mom didn't even believe me...but my father did...you know the saying..you can lead a horse to water....yata yata yata!!! But I needed to know mike what my bro was up to...I couldn't jeopardize my job to help him..he was with some not so good peeps, my wife said to me, is he(my bro) worth losing everything Her and I have worked for all these years..I think not...mike gonna say this about my bro..it is a little harsh but I need to tell myself this every now and then..if my brother dies, by his own hand or someone elses...what I get out of it is a week off with pay from work...that's what it has come down to in my situation...I have accepted this..sounds awful I know..but it's reality in my family..I will pray and hope for the best for your family.....PETE