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Cue Ball wrote:
[*M]RAPTOR wrote: Im headed home tomorrow, hoping that will wake me from this nightmare ive been stuck in since Wednesday...
I dont know how to close this up with my brother, does it just work itself out? Over time i mean. Im angry with myself, for not doing the due diligence in making sure my brother new what he ment to me. How big of a ppossitve impacted he had in my life, that i was honored to have him as a brother, that i love him dearly and really cant imagine him being gone, never to go fishin with him again and hunting. Its impossible to think that he is gone.... He was a great brother always there for me even when i didnt realize, never asked for anything or made it a piont to remind me of what he did, he just did. The guy never missed a baseball game, was there at every little league game, supported me at high school try outs pushed me when i didnt think i was good enough.... took me to the tryouts for college and stayed there for the week with me and didnt leave till i made the team, said he wanted to see me get the jersy..... i could go on with mu h more..... he was a grwat friend always enchourged me to do the best i could....
im angry with God for taking him, angry with him for not taking better care of himself.. angry for being angry......
I was away from my family, they all live there in the Salt LakE area, i moved after collage and havent been back but to visit..... i really wish that i had taken the time to be there more, i cant go back and now i feel like i cant move forward..... I will think im ok and be talking and enjoying myself and everyone, all the sudden i tear up and feel that void that wasnt there last tuesday....
Wht i took away from this is big. I know now that time and at times life is fleating and it makes no sence to think that tomorrow there will be the time.... i took my remaining brothes aside and told them what they meant to me, how lucky i am to have them in my life God forbid something were to happen i wanted them to know that... i pray Jerad did. After the service and everyone left i stayed awhile longer, i couldnt go and i didnt have a reason to stay.... i was lost, like a little boy not knowing what to do next, i just stayed there and cried a little.... dont think that this emtieness will be filled and in a way im happy for that. I had a brother that cared for me, taught me alot about myself, and left me with the gift of knowing there was always someone there that had my back. Showed me that to do for others selflessly is the highest gift one can give.... thank you Jerad for everthing.....
Thats it i think ill have to be good with that, some how get past this emotional rollor coaster im on, god help me if cant hold it together at work ill never live it down...
Thanks again My friends, i honestly dont know what i wouldnt have done with out all your support. You people are the tip of the sword! Its an honor to have you all as my friends. Your kind words gestures did more then you can ever know and im indebted. Im also very fortunate and blessed, thanks for letting me blow off the hurt and the loss to you, thanks for listening...
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Raptor my heart bleeds for you, I lost my big brother seven years ago. We did everything together, even worked together. I never told him he was my inspiration and my protector. Never was I bullied. He never hit me just protected me. It was six months before I realized he's gone, I broke down and pulled over on the highway. I never told him how much he meant to me and how great my love was. But that's brothers, I know he loved me, and he knows I love him because its never to late to tell them. God will get him the message. He died from alcohol poisoning. My summers are sad because what do you do when you best friend can't be there. So I do understand your pain,love Cue Ball
Rap, I definitely understand the hurt. I did have the luxury of my parents coming to Texas and staying with me just before my dad died in '98. I'll never forget that I made him feel like a burden. After that, my mom moved back to Maine and I saw her sporadically. I got that phone call one day in 2008 that I need to get back to Maine as "this is it." I procrastinated a day or two, thinking, "what if this isn't it and she would recover...lost vacation time..etc." when I did make it up there, I learned she went into a coma from which she never awoke....I missed her by a couple hours. Oh the feeling of guilt and helplessness which overwhelmed me. The thing my mother understood was that I did love her...and we had separate less...mine in Texas and gets in Maine. It took some time to heal, but I'll never forget what is important. Though I think about her and miss her, the guilty and hurt feelings finally subsided..though there is the occasional breakdown. I believe your brother knew how much you loved him...I believe he always knew...and like My situation, he knew you both had separate lives. The mere fact you dropped everything to run to his side proves what he meant to you. This is in no way meant to help you feel better for you must have the time of grieving...this is meant as a source of hope and something on which to dwell. Your post brings back my vivid emails of despair I sent to friends while watching my mother die. I didn't get to see her in a lucid state that week, but I was able to hold her as she took her last breath. Tears are are in my eyes as I write this as it does bring back memories. You'll never forget, but you will continue on. This is all I can add right now.
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